Offiong thought she had it all figured out — love, trust, and a future with her university sweetheart. They had been inseparable all through school, and even when she left for her NYSC posting in another state, she believed their bond was unshakable. But life, it turns out, had other plans — and they weren’t kind.
Before her service year was over, whispers started reaching her: her beloved boyfriend was now romantically involved with her own sister. Desperate for clarity, she called him. His response? A cold confirmation. No remorse. No explanation. Just truth — the kind that crushes your chest.
Now, Offiong is left grappling with not just heartbreak, but a double betrayal. The man she loved and the sister she trusted have crossed a line she never imagined. “Why would they do this to me?” she asks, still in disbelief. “How can two people who were supposed to love me betray me like this?”
Dear Bunmi responded with honesty and compassion, explaining that sometimes people’s actions reflect their own flaws — not your worth. “There may never be a logical explanation for why they did what they did,” she writes, “but what matters most now is remembering that this is not your fault. You deserve better.”
While the emotional wound is still fresh, Bunmi encourages Offiong — and others facing similar betrayal — to focus on healing and not let heartbreak define them. “There are better, more loyal people out there,” she reminds her.
If you’ve been betrayed and need a listening ear, reach out. You’re not alone.
Write to: bunmsof@yahoo.co.uk
