Former First Lady Michelle Obama is opening up about a deeply personal decision that sparked widespread speculation earlier this year — her absence from former President Donald Trump’s second inauguration and former President Jimmy Carter’s funeral.
In the latest episode of her podcast IMO with Michelle Obama and Craig Robinson, the former First Lady had a candid chat with actress Taraji P. Henson, explaining that her decision was rooted in one powerful motivation: self-preservation and peace.
“I’m really trying to own my life and make choices that are right for me — even if they don’t make sense to anyone else,” Michelle said.
Rather than being a political statement or marital issue — as some tabloids suggested — Michelle said it was a personal stand. And to make sure she wouldn’t cave to pressure, she did something bold:
“I didn’t even pack a dress.”
That’s right. Michelle — known for always being prepared — told her team not to have anything ready. No emergency outfit. No backup plan. Just a firm “no.”
“It took everything in me to not do what was perceived as ‘the right thing’—but to do what was right for me,” she shared. “It’s hard, especially for women who are taught to always show up.”
The move wasn’t just about Michelle. It was also about the message she wants to pass down to her daughters, Malia and Sasha.
“I want them to practice the art of saying ‘no,’” she said. “Because if we don’t learn to prioritize ourselves, no one else will.”
Michelle also spoke on the unfair double standards women face when setting boundaries. Her refusal to attend major events was instantly met with rumors — including claims her marriage was on the rocks.
“It couldn’t possibly be a grown woman making decisions for herself,” she reflected. “No — they had to assume something was wrong at home.”
But for Michelle, this new season of life is all about “big girl decisions”—ones made from clarity, confidence, and courage.
“I’m done with doing things just to please others,” she declared. “This year, I chose me.”
