For many women, the thought of their husband having an affair with the family nanny is a nightmare. But for Roger, a mid-forties lawyer, his unexpected romance with Muji—the woman originally hired to help with household chores—wasn’t just a fleeting affair; it changed his life.
Roger had been married to Fikayo for 18 years when cracks in their relationship began to deepen. What started as a passionate romance in their 20s had turned into a routine, with their connection as husband and wife fading over the years.
“We bumbled along fine as friends, but we didn’t connect anymore as a couple,” Roger admitted.
When Muji, an ambitious young woman with an OND, joined their household to work as a nanny, Roger never saw her as anything more than an employee. In fact, he initially thought she was “bush”—unsophisticated and unrefined. But as tensions at home escalated, he found himself drawn to her as a confidante.
With his wife constantly away for work, Muji became the person he spent the most time with. She was kind, attentive, and deeply connected with the children. What began as casual late-night conversations soon evolved into something deeper.
“I didn’t set out to fall in love,” Roger confessed. “I simply found comfort in her presence. She was there when I needed someone to talk to.”
When Fikayo suspected his growing feelings for Muji, she chose to step away for a while, leaving the children in the nanny’s care. It was then that Roger truly realized his attachment.
After months of inner turmoil, Roger finally confessed his feelings to Muji, expecting rejection. Instead, she broke down in tears and admitted she felt the same way. That moment sealed their fate.
Breaking the news to Fikayo was devastating. Though heartbroken, she chose to handle the situation with an unexpected level of grace. Rather than engaging in a bitter battle, she prioritized her children’s well-being, agreeing that if Roger was determined to be with Muji, at least it was someone she knew and trusted with their kids.
Their marriage ended, and while it wasn’t easy, Roger found happiness. He and Muji moved back to Nigeria with the children, while Fikayo remained in London. She eventually found love again, and the former couple maintained a civil co-parenting relationship.
“Muji loves and worships the ground I walk on,” Roger beamed. “She’s not just my wife—she’s my partner, my best friend, and an incredible stepmother to my children.”
While some may judge his choices, Roger believes that love often finds us in the most unexpected places. And for him, happiness meant choosing the woman who made him feel truly seen and valued.
